Amita Malik's autobiography errs on the side of caution. Though it gets to grips immediately with the problems which middle class youngsters faced in the years leading up to Independence, it is more reluctant to display personal pain. Communal hatred plunged us into the holocaust of Partition. In this milieu, Amita married a Muslim whose family lived in Lahore and remained there. Her husband Iqbal Malik, resolutely secular, opted for India. Amita became a career woman which brought her into the limelight, while her husband in government service was required, according to the decorum of those days, to remain faceless. This raised tensions between them, especially because of the all-pervasive patriarchal system where the husband must needs be the dominant partner.