This positive approach will dissolve all the darkness, discord and hatred in our heart. This will give us a capacity to forget excesses wreaked on us. This will help us wipe the baggage of the past from the blackboard of life, allow us to live in the present and start afresh. If we ruminate despairingly on the wrong committed on us, we will remain stuck there mentally and emotionally and not get out of it. There is a lesson to be learnt from the economic success of the Punjabi community after the hardships experienced by them during, and in the aftermath of, Partition. Someone who's studied the subject says that their X-factor is their never-say-die spirit. Take away their homes, businesses, money, peace -- as we saw in the aftermath of partition -- yet they would not sit down to mope or curse their fate. They will not be frozen in the past, they will not spend their lives bemoaning that they have been wronged. Such an attitude allows you to start afresh, to reconcile with the aberrations and to move forward. This way you harness only positives within you and that brings more happiness, peace, joy, abundance and harmony in your life.