THE murder of Graham Staines and his children is unforgivable. The loss that his wife and their surviving child have suffered can only be comprehended by those who have themselves suffered irreparable loss. The damage our country has suffered is substantial, and some of it may prove irreparable, for whatever traits Hindus and Hinduism may have been known for, extreme bigotry was not among them. Even in a violent land, Staines death holds a special quality of betrayal. He was no innocent bystander caught in events beyond anyones control. He chose to be in India. He dedicated his entire life to India. He loved India and its people and, miracle of miracles, his wife still does. But India made him pay for his love with his and his children's life. And blighted the lives of those he left behind.