Dear Shree, my neighbor is a beautiful 26-year-old woman who leads a bohemian life. She was living with the father of her newborn for several months. But then she kicked him out and moved in with the father of her older child. She is a housewife and stays at home all the day. Recently my husband has also retired so he spends most of his day at home. Whenever my husband is outside, she comes out of her flat and talks to him. But she never comes when I am around. In the past eight possible days without a spouse home, she has come to see my husband four days. He decided to come clean to me because he didn’t feel it was right. He slipped and said a neighbor saw them in the garden and it just didn’t look good for her to be there. I then knew why he decided to be transparent. He said she told him she would like to start helping him in the garden, when I’m not there I’m sure. By the way, it’s my garden — something I love and work hard in. I don’t think she is interested in him that way, but what is now becoming an issue for me is that he doesn’t want to hurt her feelings by telling her that she doesn’t need to come over while I’m not home. I told him to at least tell her it doesn’t look proper. He said he would consider that, but he only said that after a nasty fight, which is exactly what I didn’t want to have, happened over this issue. He hinted divorce in our argument. I don’t appreciate all this unnecessary drama. He will tell her that it is I who doesn’t want her there instead of taking responsibility. It all needs to come from him.